Sometimes 'destiny' is death, but sometimes it's not. Either way, apart from the choices we make, we can't control it, because other people make choices too. In this case, the Admiral.

And your destiny is to live again. Here. Now, you have to make a choice. Is giving into self loathing for however long you stay here really the choice you want to make? Because, as Iris as the others have made abundantly clear with this last anomaly, death isn't what people here are destined for.